Whether you’ve known the guy for a while or only just laid eyes on him last week, first dates are always nerve-wracking. It’s only natural that you end up worrying about every little thing and you can’t help but picture the worst case scenario. First dates shouldn’t be anything to worry about however. They should be fun, carefree and, if all goes well, you should come away filled with butterflies at the end of the night. The question is, how do we banish our nerves and make the most of what could be something very special?
Personally, I think the key to nailing any first date is confidence. Confidence helps your dazzling personality to shine through, it lets your guy see who you really are and, all in all, it stops you from spending the entire date with knots in your stomach. Sounds good, doesn’t it? That said, here’s four confidence boosting tips to help you nail any first date.
1 Dress For You, Not Him
Dress to impress, that’s the first rule for gaining confidence on a first date, right? Well…sort of. Sure, it’s important that you show up looking fabulous but at the same time it’s even more important that you show up looking and feeling comfortable. If you’re not comfortable with your outfit your date will sense it, he might even think the discomfort your feeling is because of him. When choosing your outfit, choose something that you know flatters you and makes you look your best but don’t sacrifice your comfort and therefore your confidence for it.
Take me for example – I know I can pull of a sexy dress and heels, I’d like to think I can turn a few heads too, but to be honest I feel ten times more confident in a pair of skinny jeans and a fancy top. Believe it or not, that’s exactly how I dressed for the first date with my guy too but I must have done something right because now we’re engaged.
Dressing so you feel comfortable as well as look fabulous, that mix of looking and feeling great will help you to relax and because you’re relaxed confidence will just ooze out of you.
2 Let Your Troubles Go
If you’re nervous and lacking confidence before a date then it’s important you find a way to let those troubles go. To do this, do something for you in the hours before leave. You could watch your favourite film, dance to your new album or go for a swim – anything that relaxes you really. This will put you in the right frame of mind for your date and may even give you something to talk about while you’re there.
Choosing to do something physical before you go on your date also has the added bonus of expelling any excess energy from your body, something that is known to exasperate nerves.
3 Embrace Your Personality
Okay, okay, I know this tip is a bit cliché but that doesn’t mean it’s any less important. Being yourself and embracing your true personality will give you an instant confidence boost on a first date. That means not holding back when you laugh, sharing the fact you have a comic book collection to rival the best of them, opening up about your guilty pleasures and, most of all, being proud of who you are. Talking about your true passions with your date, even if they are considered ‘un-cool’, will set you at ease. Let your true self shine through and love yourself, if your date doesn’t like it then that’s his loss.
4 Remember, You’re Awesome
Finally, before you go on your date, remind yourself of all the reasons you’re awesome and why your date is lucky to be with you. It may sound big headed but this tip is ace for helping to boost your confidence. Remind yourself of all your greatest achievements and the things you love about yourself, you’ll feel better in no time. Plus, if you feel your confidence slipping on your date you can keep this going in your head too.
My first date with my guy went amazingly thanks to all these simple tricks and, just eight months later, he put a ring on my finger. It’s always worth bearing in mind that any first date could be your last, the guy you meet could be ‘the one’, so you might as well make the most of it. Don’t let your nerves ruin what could potentially be something great.
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